The New Generation of Love...

Could it be that we've lost the art of dating? The social media portrays the image of "perfect" love when "perfect" simply doesn't exist. You have no idea how often it is that I hear from my circle of friends and acquaintances, how hard it is to find a mate these days. From many different walks of life, noone seems to be exempt from the struggle. So, it made me wonder, what is this generation doing wrong when it comes to LOVE?

I had the honor to interview life coach and best selling author of "Still Breathin", Brenden Dilley. What I love about him is his blunt honesty and rawness. I've asked him some of the most controversial questions about love and relationships...please read on.

What inspired you to write the book “Still Breathin”?

I actually started the book as a blog. I wanted to share my stories and chose to blog because of how informal it was. This platform allowed me to implement a lot more of my sense of humor and raw, honest opinions. I was a month into my blog and I realized I was writing a book. After that my main goal was to make sure that all of the pain and suffering I had brought upon myself didn't go to waste. I learned so much through my failures that the only way to justify them was by sharing the lessons with others

In your opinion, what is an adequate length of time should men and women allow to “date”, until they make it official?

Every relationship is different. There is no set amount of time. My current girlfriend and I have basically been an item since our first date. Every individual and relationship is unique so it's best to not have arbitrary rules about timelines for this type of thing.

What do men admit amongst themselves when they speak of core qualities of their perfect (future) mate?

Loyalty. Easily. Most men already have issues with being emotionally vulnerable so the last thing they want to do is commit to the wrong woman and have her make him feel foolish by cheating or deceiving him.

What is the most confusing thing , men find about women?

That's a loaded question. Lol! I think that men today have a real issue with younger women's entitlement issues. Women who are 30+ generally drop the entitlement bullshit because they know the score and that the men they're pursuing are being pursued by women much younger.

Younger women on the other hand derive so much self worth from the attention they get from the opposite sex (which is complete bullshit) that they start to believe the shit that these men are telling them. All of the "likes" on Instagram as thirsty ass comments on Facebook have many of these women thinking they're the finished version of themselves. Unfortunately, men have realized this and the games between douche bag men and women in their 20's continue.

When men say that they’re not ready for a relationship, what does this truly mean?

Men are always ready for a relationship when it's a woman they value. Same thing for women who say shit like this. If a man or woman tells you they're not ready for a relationship it just means they think they can do better than you and are holding out.

What is the perfect “first-date” set-up?

I prefer something informal and simple. I don't want to spend a lot of money and more importantly I don't want to spend a lot of time if the connection isn't there. I save dinner for the second date but the first was usually coffee or ice cream and a walk in the park.

When should you have sex in a new relationship?

Whenever you're both ready. I don't think there is a set rule for this either. Generally speaking I'd say women would be best served by taking it slow and really understanding a man's intentions before hitting the sheets (assuming she's seeking a relationship). However, if the woman is indifferent to a relationship, has chemistry with the guy and wants sex... go for it.

Perfect love/relationships don’t exist, but what is the closest definition of it?

Having a best friend who you crave, sexually. Even best friends fight and disagree...same with your ideal romance. The difference is that best friends hug it out or whatever and relationships with your best friend are patched up through ravenous make up sex. Lol!

Thank you for your expertise. Tell us how we can obtain your book, your future project plans and guest appearances.

The book can be ordered through Amazon http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/061589545X?vs=1

Currently we're working on expanding distribution and setting up a speaking tour and book signing. Follow me on Twitter for regular updates and inspiring tweets (@hublife).