This Thing Called Love

  My heart stopped beating. I was flooded with emotions but the most prominent one was "fear". My world revolved around his life and one day it all came crashing down, unexpectedly. I wanted to cry but my eyes refused to shed a tear. For lack of better words, I turned to our marriage counselor and asked, "Am I going to be okay?'.

 

"Honey, trust me! You're going to be more than okay!"

 

I saw the hopeful conviction in his eyes that immediately gave me access to an undeniable power, so I took it and ran with it. I promised to myself that I would never allow myself to be sucked into a deep dark hole where all my energy is drained and my vivacity be sullied. 

 

But see, it was never about him. It was a time for the revival of a new me; much better me. The dreamer, the one with ambition, the woman with a voice and the woman I was destined to be. The choices that I've made in the past created the space of un-fulfillment and having this honest and awakening realization, compelled me to see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

 

"This is not the end of me; this is the beginning".

 

There was only one question to ask myself at the time. "Who am I?" My journey of self-discovery led me to a path where I am today. Over the years of constant emotional distress from day-to-day social interaction (not limited to dating, I'm talking about friendships, family, co-workers and acquaintances as well) I have created this intangible medial safe haven where I can remain unbothered yet compassionate, calm and collected, insightful yet discernible, strong but forgiving and above all, full of love. It is a mental state where there is absolute contentment and total life appreciation as a whole.

 

People noticed and people ask constantly how I do it. People ask me for advice about "relationships" because they've noticed how I seem to have everything "under control", when in fact, this was never the case! I just learned to have an open mind in order to admit that not everything is going to perfectly go my way and I started recognizing the elements that are out of my control. I had to rely on my faith and simply let go! I found inner peace and actively practiced self-love, which gave me the recognition of my self worth. As a result, everything seemed to be in perfect "balance" - emotionally and spiritually, which eventually reflected externally. I was noticeably happier! I've learned that when you finally stop obsessing about what you think you know, life flows better. 

 

Another valuable lesson that I learned is to be kind to others as this does not return to you void; you will attract the same positive energy and you will be blessed as you become a blessing to others.

 

I witness too many people so consumed in their relationships, completely disregarding the beauty of their individuality that they become someone they're not, just to please their partner. There's nothing worse than becoming a prisoner of your own love. I'm all about the power of vulnerability, so long as it doesn't leave you feeling "empty" at the end of the day. Truth is, you must first "fill your own cup before it runneth over" (Psalm 23:5). It is impossible to implement love when there is a love-deficit within yourself, to begin with!

 

Welcome to my blog! People mostly know me as 'the model", the "host of the party", the girl who's always dressed nice, the girl that dates models and friends with celebrities. I hope that people see the depth in me through my voice, my life journey-one that's just like yours. The woman that will fall in love...again.

 

Join me as I explore the most basic yet pivotal element of every human existence....

 

 

This thing called love.

 

 

Stay,

 

Arvi Daveo

Founder

 

E-Mail: Arvisloveblog@gmail.com

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